Leaders Get The Girls

by Christian Thorne on January 23, 2012

If you were on an airplane that crash-landed on a deserted island with fifty other people would you be a natural leader? How about when you’re out with your friends, are you one of the leaders of your group? If your answer to either of these was “no” you likely don’t have the choice you would like with women either.

Women are naturally programmed to seek out leaders. If you can show her that you are the leader of your group and/or establish yourself as an authority in her world you will get massive attraction. A leader will convey all characteristics of confidence, which we’ve already discussed. Lets talk about what it is to be a strong leader.

You may have heard the expression, “Lead the men, and the women will follow”. You can convey that you are a natural leader by entering a group and gaining control of the interaction. This doesn’t mean talking over everyone in the group. If you are able to approach the group and gain the attention of everyone in the group you can convey that you are the leader. If you are telling an interesting story and everyone in the group is reacting to you, the women will subconsciously see you as a leader.

Many men misinterpret being a leader and think that they must dominate and lead everything. That is not what being a leader is all about. That just makes you come off as a socially awkward asshole! Don’t be that guy!

A strong leader makes others feel good about their positive attributes. You want others to feel like they are at their best when they are around you. When a leader gives a compliment he means it and it doesn’t come from a place of “suck up”.

As a leader you shouldn’t be concerned about power and authority but rather respect of the group. Realize that everyone in the group has value and bring that out in a way that makes others feel good about having you there.

When you are out with a woman you can show leadership by being decisive. Know what your plan is and make it happen without asking for permission. If an unexpected decision comes along don’t sit and hesitate, just do what you feel is right. Women like it when a guy is decisive and able to make quick decisions.

If leadership does not come naturally for you, realize it will take time to work on this. If you’ve already set a dynamic with a friend or group where they are clearly the leader and you try to take that roll they may take notice and not like it. It takes time to calibrate your leadership abilities but make it a high priority to do so in all current and future relationships.

 

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Don’t Be Afraid To Escalate Sexually

by Christian Thorne on January 16, 2012

One of the biggest mistakes men make once they’ve been talking to a woman for awhile, and things seem to be going well, is they don’t escalate further than just having a normal conversation. Once things are going well many men don’t take things further because they don’t want to screw things up, or they don’t believe that the woman could really be into them.

When you don’t escalate things in a sexual nature you are communicating to the woman that you don’t want a sexual relationship with her. You’re conveying that you just want to be friends and you’re likely to hear the words “just friends”.

Once you’ve been placed in the friend zone it’s very hard to get out of and if you’re in the friend zone and try to escalate sexually it will just come off as weird. If you find yourself in the friend zone with a woman it is usually best to move on and be happy you’ve made a new friend.

To avoid the friend zone you want to make your intentions known very early in the interaction. You are a sexual being and so is she. Don’t be afraid to be a man and bring out the woman in her.

By making your intentions known to her you are communicating that you are an alpha male who’s not afraid to go for what he wants, this is very attractive to her.

There are tons of different ways to escalate in the interaction.

Here are just a few examples:

-  Communicate to her that she is sexy

-  Touch her

-  Tickle her

-  Kiss her

-  Make up pet names for her

-  Whisper things in her ear

-  When seated slowly start bringing your legs together so that they touch every so often.

If when you’re attempting to escalate and she seems a little distant it is probably because she doesn’t feel comfortable enough with you yet, so go back to normal conversation and try to escalate again later.

It’s important that if this does happen to not let it affect you, remember you are the confident alpha male that lives in his own reality and nothing bothers you. A woman wants to be picked up, but she wants you to do it. She’s not just going to hand her self over to you this is why it is so important to ESCALATE!

Men often pre-occupy themselves with trying to figure out if a woman is in to them. There are tons of subtle little things a woman will do while talking to you to let you know that she is interested in you sexually. Such as playful touching, flipping her hair, putting on lip-gloss, and the list goes on and on.

Rather then being to concerned at looking for these cues it’s a better practice to always assume it’s on, or always assume she’s into you and you can escalate in a sexual nature at any time. This is a better way of thinking for a couple different reasons.

  1. If you are always looking for cues that’s she’s into you, you can become to involved in looking for these cues and you’ll come off as you’re seeking to get something from her.
  2. When you always assume it’s on you are implanting in your head that all women want you and they have no choice but to be into you. What you believe to be true will become true.

So now that you know you need to escalate there is one more thing to keep in mind. When escalating in a public venue, such as a bar or club, you want to make sure to not escalate to far, to far meaning going past making out and going to arousal. Escalating this far can cause regret. Then she will associate those bad feelings toward you. Wait till you get to a private location before taking it to that level.

Here are some other key points to keep in mind when escalating:

Kissing or making out in a club is not a big deal to women. Often times an attractive woman will have multiple make outs every weekend she goes out and has kissed thousands of guys over her lifetime. Once you start thinking this way you will notice how incredibly easy it is to get a make out in the club.

Just because you got a make out doesn’t mean you’re going to get her number or hang out with her later, you just made out with her that’s it.

It is possible to have sex with a woman the same night you meet her. What you believe can happen will happen. There is no set amount of time a woman takes to decide to have sex with you. Once you display the right characteristics to her and she feels she knows the real you she will be ready for sex. She may take a week before she is ready with one man or she could be ready that night if a man is able to flip enough of her attraction switches.

Many men feel they need to wait to have sex with a woman in fear of disrespecting her or ruining their chances of becoming her boyfriend this is total bullshit! Having sex with a woman quickly will not ruin the chance of a future relationship with her! Actually if you have more of a chance of losing her if you get her to the point of being ready and wanting sex and not pulling the trigger!

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Quit Making Excuses and Go Talk To Her!

by Christian Thorne on January 9, 2012

How many times have you been in the club, the grocery store, the library, wherever and you see a woman that catches your eye and you think, “I should go say something to her”, but then you don’t?

Why didn’t you go up to her? An excuse similar to the following probably stopped you: “Oh she looked busy”, “she was with her friends”, “she didn’t seem like she wanted to be bothered”, “I’m just relaxing, I don’t want to talk to anyone”, “she’s not my type”, etc.

Whatever excuses you’re telling yourself stop it!

Excuses are like drugs they are very addictive. When you didn’t approach the woman you felt down on yourself because you know that you should have approached.

Then you make an excuse (oh she was with her friends) and all of a sudden you feel a little better because now in your mind there’s no possible way you could have ever approached her because she was busy with her friends.

I call this “it’s not my fault” thinking. In reality you would have felt much better about yourself if you would have approached and gotten rejected rather than not approach at all because when you approached you acted like a man and did what you wanted.

The alpha male lives in his own reality and makes his own rules. If you see a woman you want to talk to, go and talk to her! Don’t think about it, just do it!

Women are naturally more aware of their social surroundings. If you are lingering around trying to get the courage to approach she will notice this. If you approach after lingering it most likely will come off as you were trying to think of something to say and it’ll come off very awkward. On the other hand if you approach with out thinking, it appears to her as if you just came out of no where and all of sudden here’s this cool guy sweeping her off her feet.

Approaching is not the only thing men make excuses about. Take this scenario: You approach a woman in a bar. You start talking to her and the interaction isn’t going anywhere. You bail and think to yourself, “what a bitch”. You blame the interaction going bad on her and not yourself. That is just another excuse.

Pound this in your head: It’s never the woman’s fault!

If she didn’t want to talk to you it’s likely you did something wrong somewhere in the interaction. You may have come off as needy, had bad body language, or said the same thing every other guy has said to her all night. Whatever it was something flipped a switch in her head that she shouldn’t make an effort to get to know you.

I’m not telling you this so you can feel bad about bad interactions. I’m telling you this because it is very important that you look at every interaction as a learning experience. Eliminating the excuse you use to protect your ego allows you to see the truth in the interaction.

All reactions that you get from women in the interaction should be viewed as feedback. If you’re getting positive reactions from her then you are getting feedback saying you are doing something right, keep doing it. If you are getting negative reactions from her you are getting negative feedback that you are doing something wrong, stop doing it or change it.

When you make excuses instead of taking it as feedback and learning from it, you are saying to yourself that you did nothing wrong therefore you have no reason to change and you will never improve.

You need to cut out all excuses and take responsibly for your own life. The excuses are not serving you in a positive way. The only thing they are doing is holding you back from being the cool successful man you deserve to be.

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What Type Of Woman Do You Want?

by Christian Thorne on January 2, 2012

This is a very important question to ask yourself. Sure you say, “I want the hot one or the cute one” but believe it or not their personalities do matter. Not only do personalities matter but also what point they’re at in their lives.

Whether they are young and just having fun or if they’re older and more established all this matters depending on where you’re at in your life.

If you’re the kind of guy who likes to stay home and not go out then a woman in her 20’s is probably not going to be best for you.

On the other hand if your more of the stay at home type maybe you want someone who’s a little older and more settled. The important thing to keep in mind is there are millions of women out there, so on your search for the perfect one don’t get discouraged if you don’t find her right away it will take some time.

As far as looks go there are tons of different types of women from the super hot ones that every guy wants to ones that look a bit homely that not many guys talk to.

Something to keep in mind is the super hot model a lot of times doesn’t have the great personality that maybe a woman who’s not quite as good looking does.

If you plan on spending any amount of time with her this matters! So really take some time and figure out where you’re at in your life and what you want out of a relationship with a woman.

If it’s just sex you’re looking for maybe personality doesn’t matter as much, but if you want to talk to her it might. Just know what you want.Now you know what type of woman you want so where do you find her?

If you’re looking for that 20 something party girl then probably the best place to look for her is at a club or bar, but if you want that sexy business type then you’re best bet would be coffee shops, lounges, or bookstores. Not to say that both types won’t frequent the other venues but it’s just a rule of thumb.

If you’re going out in clubs and bars the atmosphere is going to be much different then that of a coffee house. Clubs are going to be loud, lots of stuff going on to distract the both of you. This is not necessarily a good thing or a bad thing you just need to know how to deal with it by being a cool interesting guy, which nothing bothers you. If you can do that you can overcome any loud bar or club.

If the bar or club scene isn’t really your thing try out some coffee shops or bookstores. Many times it takes much less effort to get to know a woman in this kind of atmosphere.

The reason being when a woman goes to a club she’s knows she’s going to be hit on so her defenses will be up, but because she’s not necessarily expecting to be hit on just hanging in a coffee shop or store her guard will be lowered.

With her guard lowered it makes it much easier for you to strike up a conversation.  Bars, clubs, coffee houses and bookstores are not the only places that you can meet women. Wherever women are present is a good place to meet women. So no matter where you’re at if you see a woman you want to talk to go and talk to her.

You’re going to meet lots of women from lots of different backgrounds and cultures, some of them you will like others you won’t. It’s okay to experiment a little to truly find what you like.

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Be Comfortable With Your Sexuality

by Christian Thorne on December 26, 2011

As a man it is extremely important that you are comfortable with your sexuality. There is nothing more natural than a man and woman coming together to have sex. If you are insecure in any way with your body, touching, performing, or anything else, it can lead to a number of problems. It could be your problem for not having confidence talking to women in the first place. A man who radiates sexual confidence has an easier time attracting women. You are a sexual being and you should not apologize for being so.

Here are some truths to help you get over your false beliefs about sex and help you gain more confidence.

Women Like Sex As Much As Men

Some men assume women do not enjoy sex as much as men so sex becomes something they’re trying to get from her. This is completely false. Women enjoy sex just as much, if not more, than men.

Men are attracted to the physical attributes of a woman and will decide, “oh I’d have sex with her” before even getting to know her.

Women are not like that. A woman needs to be certain that you are the confident alpha man you seem to be. Once a woman is confident she knows enough about who you are she will feel comfortable sleeping with you. This doesn’t mean she likes sex any less than you. It’s just that she doesn’t want to sex any loser on the street.

If you’re still not convinced that women enjoy sex as much as men consider the female clitoris has as many or more nerve endings as the male penis and is the only human organ whose sole purpose is sexual pleasure!

Penis Size Doesn’t Matter

Some men reading this are probably already feeling a sigh of relief. Some women reading this might disagree so lets explain.

The reason it is commonly thought that men with bigger penises are more pleasurable for women is a large penis is more likely to hit pleasure zones in the vagina. This same stimulation can be achieved with knowledge of what your doing regardless of size.

Men around the world are obsessed with penis size. Companies try to capitalize off this false belief with things like penis pumps, pills, exercises and hundreds of other products that don’t work.

Pornographic images and movies are made with guys with unusually large penises, which only fuels the average guy’s insecurity.

The truth is there aren’t a lot of women that are concerned with size. It’s mostly men that obsess over their size. Women are more likely to orgasm from oral and/or manual stimulation than intercourse.

Learn Sexual Techniques

A lot of men are clueless when it comes to giving their woman pleasure. They treat sex as something they are taking from her. Short boring sex then it’s over. It’s no wonder there are women who think they can’t orgasm!

Why not give your woman the most pleasurable sexual experience of her life? There is nothing more powerful for your sexual confidence than to know you can give a woman infinite pleasure!

Remember a woman is more likely to orgasm from oral or manual stimulation so knowing what your doing makes all the difference. Please her like no other man can and she won’t want to leave you because you are the only one who can make her feel that good!

There are many different ways to give a woman an orgasm.  One of the best ways is to stimulate her G Spot.

Practice Makes Perfect

If you haven’t had a lot of sex, don’t feel bad about not being good at it. Like anything else it takes experience to get good. Find a woman you feel comfortable with and do some experimenting. Ask her for feedback and get some experience under your belt.

 

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3 Rules for Ultimate Success with Exotic Dancers

by Christian Thorne on December 19, 2011

Ever since I started Factors of Attraction Blog the feedback has been great! Men have been enjoying success with women that they never imagined.

One question that I commonly get asked is “How can I improve success with picking up and dating Exotic Dancers (Strippers)?”

Exotic Dancers are a unique niche group of women that require certain guidelines if you want to be successful in taking them home. While sometimes it can seem difficult, Exotic Dancers can be the easiest women to seduce!

OK, lets get started…

RULE #1

The number one rule when it comes to picking up Exotic Dancers is NEVER let the dancers see you as a customer! Strippers are in the club to make money. Their job is to get money from men who are willing to pay them for attention, aka “The Customer”. This is why a Stripper’s number one rule is never date a customer! It’s bad for business!

How do you avoid being the “customer” at the strip club? Here are rules you need to stick to in order to avoid being a customer.

  • NEVER for any reason spend money on a Stripper! Once you spend money on her the chances of her seeing you as anything other than the other horny losers in the club are slim. This is not about being a cheap asshole. It’s about staying away from being labeled a “customer” and ruining your chances with her.
  • Do NOT let the Strippers dance for you. Again it is extremely important for the girls to not see you as a customer. Getting a dance is the quickest way to get labeled a customer. I know it can be very tempting to get a dance when you have a beautiful woman who is mostly naked right there willing to do so, but you must avoid this action now if you want to take her home later!
  • Do NOT touch the girls. You are trying to convey that you are a cool guy, not another pervert customer. Play it cool and don’t touch the girls. If they touch you be cool and don’t make a big deal out of it.
  • Do NOT stay in the club for a long time. This is a common behavior shared amongst the desperate men who waist all their hard earned money in the club. This is definitely another customer behavior you want to avoid!

Rule #2

Rule number two is you need to demonstrate ALL characteristics of an attractive male. I cover this in massive detail in Factors of Attraction blog so I’m not going to go into detail in this psot, but here’s some extra things to keep in mind when it comes to Exotic Dancers.

  • Take the conversation outside the events happening in the club. Any boring guy can make comments about what’s going on in the here and now. Tell her stories that take her mind away from the strip club and to fun or interesting feelings of events outside the club that she can relate to.
  • Avoid sexual topics. She deals with perverts all night, give her the relief of talking to a guy who’s interesting and not just interested in sex (even though you might be).
  • Don’t compliment her on her looks. Customers validate her all night telling her how beautiful she is, she doesn’t need to hear it from you. If you find a commonality or unique thing you find interesting about her, other than her looks, then by all means go ahead and tell her, but stay away from complimenting her looks.
  • Don’t be needy towards the girls. This is a topic I cover in Factors of Attraction blog, but it’s worth discussing again here. These women are usually very confident and socially savvy. They will pick up on neediness quickly so watch yourself. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t normally do, like don’t let her try to make you do things for her and tool you around. Be willing to tell her NO and/or walk away from any situation.

RULE #3

Show her that you can relate to and understand her world.

Women who work in a strip club often live an unusual lifestyle and they know that most men can’t handle it. Most of their life is spent in the club, dancing for strangers, going to parties, working late hours, and is often times fueled by drugs and alcohol. They know the average chode on the street can’t hang with this lifestyle so you need to convey that you can relate. How do you do this? Here are a few tips.

  • DO NOT call them Strippers. Have you noticed that throughout this report, including the title, I’ve mainly used “Exotic Dancer” to refer to women who dance in gentlemen’s clubs? That’s because this is exactly what the dancers refer to themselves as. Use the term “Exotic Dancer” and avoid using “Stripper” when talking to them.
  • Tell her you’ve dated an “Exotic Dancer” before. Want to show her that you understand her world and her lifestyle? The quickest way to do this is to tell her you’ve dated an Exotic Dancer in the past. This will put her mind at ease since you must already understand her lifestyle beings that you’ve dated an Exotic Dancer in the past.
  • Take the time to really understand an Exotic Dancer’s world and take an inside look at her world. What better way to show her you understand her world than to actually understand it!

Conclusion:

Like any other skill set, learning to pickup Exotic Dancers takes practice. At the end of the day these women are people too and you should take care to remember this when you are interacting with them. If you follow the 3 rules above and the guidelines that follow each of them seducing Exotic Dancers will become as easy as 1, 2, 3!

 

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Looking Good Can Get You Laid

by Christian Thorne on December 9, 2011

StyleWhile physical appearance is not the most important factor of attraction to women, it is part of the overall package. There are things that are under your control in your physical appearance and these include style and grooming.

The single most important part of having style is to be able to stand out from the crowd and be congruent with it. What I mean by congruent is your style has to fit with your personality. For example, if you’re a doctor or a lawyer you’re probably not going to go out dressed like a punk rocker. You wouldn’t be congruent with that image.

You need to look at yourself and figure out what kind of image you want to portray. Know that if you dress gothic you’re probably going to attract more gothic girls. If you’re going for that punk rock girl it helps to have a little rocker edge to your style.

So how do you stand out from the crowd? Your work clothes are your work clothes. Go and buy some clothes specifically for going out. When going out you want to show that you have style and that you can stand out in a unique fashion. Women notice when you’re wearing something different from everyone else.

Typically if you’re dressed different you will have to put up with more social pressure. Guys might come up and tease you on what you’re wearing. This is why a lot of guys dress the same. They can’t take social pressure or stand up for their individuality. Being able to take social pressure is an attractive quality to women because it shows that you’re a strong male and can stand up for yourself and thus will be able to stand up for her and protect her.

Get something that’s a little different from the norm. The polo shirt is not a good shirt for picking up chicks. Get something that is unique that women will notice and start a conversation with you by asking about it. You’ll be amazed how often this can happen.

Shop somewhere besides department or trendy mall stores. Every city has little unique shops where you can find lots of cool gear. Get a city guide and find the shops in your area. If you travel often buy unique items from different cities.

Always try clothes on. They may look good on the rack but may look like hell on you.

One of the best things you can do is take a woman shopping with you. Women have great sense of style and can be a big help. Women are very observant. They notice the little things.

Accessorizing is a great way to stand out. Get a couple rings and necklaces to wear out. Get a stylish pair of shoes or boots. Boots in particular are good because not everyone wears boots and they will also give you a little height.

If you wear glasses consider getting contacts or laser surgery. If you insist on glasses, but they haven’t been updated since the stone ages, get some new frames.

Instead of going for a $9.99 haircut at the generic barber shop, go for the salon haircut that may cost you a little bit more but is worth it. They will be able to match a haircut with your facial features and it will really show. Don’t be afraid to throw a little color in too.

While you’re at the salon consider getting excess hair waxed. Wax your eyebrows to even them up and prevent unibrow. If you have excess hair on your back, chest, and stomach consider waxing those areas as well. These are personal decisions as some women like their men hairy. Younger generations of women tend to like their men groomed with less body hair.

Women make an effort to smell nice for their men. Return the favor by getting some designer cologne. This is something else that is nice to have a woman’s opinion on. Women tend to be the ones selling designer colognes so you can get her opinion on it before buying. Cologne smells different on different people depending on the oils on your skin so make sure you know what it smells like on you. It may smell nice on the test paper but once you mix it with the oils on your skin it might smell different.

Always keep your nails at the very least trimmed. If you really want them nice go for a manicure. Women do a lot of grooming to their bodies so keep in mind that what a woman does to herself she will take notice to on men. Not to say that you have to become some girly man, just don’t look like a slob.

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Approach Anxiety

by Christian Thorne on November 21, 2011

“Approach Anxiety – Why Are You Scared To Talk To Girls?”
Approach Anxiety
Approach anxiety is an emotional fear that you feel all throughout your entire body when you are about ready to approach a woman. It can be such a powerful feeling that you may feel like you can’t even move. Needless to say this can be a very frustrating problem to deal with.

The fear of the approach is actually hard wired into your brain from all the way back in the cave man days. You see when we used to live in tribes we had to be very careful with the women we would choose to approach. Approaching the wrong woman at the wrong time could mean the end of your life. You didn’t know if they were already taken and if their mate would come and bash a rock over your head. Or you risked being rejected by her and word getting out that you are not worthy male and thus be forced out of the tribe to find a mate which would then mean you would have to be on your own and chance of survival would be very low. So back in this era is was actually a good thing to have approach anxiety, it kept you alive and out of harms way.

However as you can see this day and age approach anxiety serves no purpose at all. You generally don’t have to worry about some other guy bashing a rock over your head or one single girl telling the whole world how she had to turn you down. Never the less the fear of approach is still engraved inside us all.

Can approach anxiety ever be cured? Unfortunately no, not totally anyway you will always have a little sense of fear when approaching an attractive woman, but the more and more you approach women the less and less severe the approach anxiety becomes. Now that you have a better understanding of what approach anxiety is and where it comes from you will at least be able to acknowledge the feeling and move on and talk to the girl!

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Attraction Formula

by Christian Thorne on November 21, 2011

“The Truth Behind Female To Male Attraction”Attraction Formula

What I’m about to share with you is going to change the way you think about attracting women and open up an entirely new world of opportunity for you.

Once you understand these concepts and learn how to apply them you might even smack yourself in the face for not noticing these things before. Don’t give yourself a hard time, 99% of men are clueless about these concepts.

This article is about Female to Male attraction, but before I get into the heart of this topic I want to take a quick second to talk about Male to Female attraction so we can compare and contrast the two to give you a better understanding.

What attracts a Man to a Woman is obvious but it’s important that we compare this with what attracts Women to Men so that you can see that there is a significant difference in the two.

If I were to ask you to make a list of what you find attractive in a woman, what would you write down?

I want you to be brutally honest with me here. Don’t avoid writing tits and ass to try to be wholesome and nice!

I’m talking about a supermodel walking in the room, and you feel instant attraction. What attracts you to her?

I think the most honest list we would see would look something like this:

Breasts
Butt
Hips
Beautiful Facial Features
Hair
Youth
And other physical qualities

Men are hard wired to be attracted to a woman’s physical qualities. Men decide within SECONDS of seeing a woman whether or not they are attracted.

Admit it, you see a hot girl walking across the room and you feel a powerful attraction before you’ve even spoken a word to her! This is OK, we are supposed to be that way!

Men are evolutionarily programmed to seek out attractive females because they have the highest chance of producing the strongest and most attractive offspring, therefore giving our genes a better chance of being passed on.

In most cultures this is very obvious common knowledge stuff. Why else would women spend thousands of dollars on beauty supplies, diets, clothes, surgery, and other things to make themselves beautiful?

Women do this kind of stuff to make themselves more physically attractive, so they can be attractive to the opposite sex, therefore giving them more mates to choose from.

Ok, so maybe I haven’t told you anything you don’t already know yet. But now that we have Male to Female attraction more clearly defined, we can take a look at Female to Male attraction, which is COMPLETELY DIFFERENT!

“What Attracts Women To Men Is Not So Obvious, But If You Understand This You Can Flip Any Woman’s Attraction Switches…”

I want you to take a minute and come up with a list of all the things you think women are attracted to in men.

Now write these qualities women find attractive in men down in a list like we did above. This is a harder one isn’t it?

When I ask men this question, these are some of the common qualities I will see on their lists:

Looks
Nice
Money
Tall
Handsome
Romantic
Great Abs
Gentleman
Chiseled facial features
Muscles
Chivalry

Did you see any of these things on your list? If you did you can begin smacking yourself because these things have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH ATTRACTION!

Some of you might not believe me yet. This is because we’ve been socially conditioned through popular media such as book, movies, magazines, television, and internet to believe that these things are what women look for in a man.

While it makes a good fairytale story in movies, it unfortunately gives men the wrong idea about attracting women!

I know what some of you doubters are thinking now. If you ask a woman what she is attracted to what do you think she would say?

She would probably say something like, “I like a tall man, with a nice stomach, cute face, nice muscles, who treats me like a gentleman.”

I bet if you took this same hypothetical woman we are generalizing about and looked at the men she has dated or slept with, they would be nothing like what she described above.

The reason is because what a woman LOGICALLY thinks she wants in a man is NOT what she EMOTIONALLY responds to!

Now we’re getting somewhere! Read the line above ten times out loud so your subconscious hears it.

This is incredibly important for you to understand. A woman’s attraction switches are in her emotions, not in her logic!

Think about the standard approach most men have with women. They walk up, introduce themselves, and start asking logical questions like “What’s your name?”, “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”

Engaging a woman like this will NOT spark attraction because you are approaching her logically. You need to learn how to approach her on an emotional level so you can flip her emotional attraction switches!

“So How Do You Flip These Emotional Switches?”

Earlier we talked about how men become attracted to a woman within seconds of seeing her. The same is not true about a woman’s attraction to men.

Women take minutes if not hours to decide if they are attracted to a man and attraction can fluctuate up and down at any time during your interactions with her.

Furthermore physical characteristics have little, if not nothing, to do with a woman’s attraction towards a man. Female to Male attraction is very different in the fact that women are hard wired differently.

Women are evolutionarily hard wired to seek out dominant males. Dominant males offer survival value, which is good for the survival of herself and her offspring. This increases the chances of her genes being passed on.

This does not mean you have to be a big hulky male to get women. In fact it’s quite the opposite. Any man can learn to convey these characteristics and gain attraction very quickly from any woman.

In seeking out dominate males women look to the following when judging attraction:

Women are hard wired to be attracted to a man’s behavioral cues.

PLUS

Women read social cues to see how others are reacting towards that man.

With that said, if we were to go back to our list of qualities women are attracted to in men it would change to be something more like this:

Confidence
Leadership
Humor
Tonality
Body Language
Comfort in your environment
Ability to stand out
Liked by other women
Indifference to what other people think
Boundaries of what you will accept from others
Control over your emotions and your reality
And more…

These are characteristics that are sub-communicated through behavior and social cues that women become attracted to!

Notice you don’t see anything about physical qualities, money, age, or being a nice guy!

Have you ever seen a woman with a man and wondered “why is she with that guy?”

Maybe the guy is 6 inches shorter than her, maybe he’s fat, maybe he’s 15 years older, or maybe he treats her like crap, but for “some reason” she is attracted to him.

That “some reason” is because this man has attracted her emotionally by sub-communicating attraction to her!

The same holds true as to why women are attracted to “bad boys”. It’s because these men automatically flip the right attraction switches for her!

I’m not saying that you have to be a bad boy or not be nice to women. You can sub-communicate the right qualities and flip these same switches without having to be a jerk to women!

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Best Pick Up Lines

by Christian Thorne on November 21, 2011

Best Pick Up Lines“Still Searching For The Best Pick Up Lines? I’m Going To Teach You Secrets To Attracting Women That Most Men Will Never Know About… “

Dear Friend,

Are you still looking for the best pick up lines for approaching women? Do you have the guts to walk up to a mixed group of men and women in order to get the girl you want?

When you are doing a cold approach, meaning walking up to strangers you’ve never met before, there are two ways to approach.

You either open direct or indirect. Let me explain…

When you open direct, this means you give a statement of intent right away letting her know that you are interested in her.

An example would be, “You are really cute, I had to come over here and see if there’s more to you than meets the eye.”

Anytime you give a statement of intent such as “You are really cute…” you want to balance that with a statement of disinterest such as “…I had to come over here and see if there’s more to you than meets the eye.”

Giving a compliment directly and waiting for her reaction can make her feel uncomfortable and make you seem needy and low value. Balancing it out like in the above opener shows that you value more than just her beauty.

Another example of a direct opener done in this way would be, “You’re very beautiful, but I bet we’d never get along”. This statement shows interest but also adds a challenge to her when you balance it out with “…but I bet we’d never get along.”

Opening direct can present problems when you have to approach a group of people. You might not want to give a statement of intent because you don’t want the rest of the group to “cock block” you.

This is when we use indirect openers. Indirect openers are neutral in that they give no indicators that you are after the girl. An indirect opener should engage the entire group and get them all interested in you.

An example would be “Hey guys, real quick, can I get your opinion on something? Who do you think lies more, guys or girls?”

This will start a conversation with the group in a neutral friendly way. After you’ve launched into this type of opener you can then move into a story and begin to befriend the group while pumping up the attraction with the woman you are interested in.

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