Ever since I started Factors of Attraction Blog the feedback has been great! Men have been enjoying success with women that they never imagined.
One question that I commonly get asked is “How can I improve success with picking up and dating Exotic Dancers (Strippers)?”
Exotic Dancers are a unique niche group of women that require certain guidelines if you want to be successful in taking them home. While sometimes it can seem difficult, Exotic Dancers can be the easiest women to seduce!
OK, lets get started…
The number one rule when it comes to picking up Exotic Dancers is NEVER let the dancers see you as a customer! Strippers are in the club to make money. Their job is to get money from men who are willing to pay them for attention, aka “The Customer”. This is why a Stripper’s number one rule is never date a customer! It’s bad for business!
How do you avoid being the “customer” at the strip club? Here are rules you need to stick to in order to avoid being a customer.
- NEVER for any reason spend money on a Stripper! Once you spend money on her the chances of her seeing you as anything other than the other horny losers in the club are slim. This is not about being a cheap asshole. It’s about staying away from being labeled a “customer” and ruining your chances with her.
- Do NOT let the Strippers dance for you. Again it is extremely important for the girls to not see you as a customer. Getting a dance is the quickest way to get labeled a customer. I know it can be very tempting to get a dance when you have a beautiful woman who is mostly naked right there willing to do so, but you must avoid this action now if you want to take her home later!
- Do NOT touch the girls. You are trying to convey that you are a cool guy, not another pervert customer. Play it cool and don’t touch the girls. If they touch you be cool and don’t make a big deal out of it.
- Do NOT stay in the club for a long time. This is a common behavior shared amongst the desperate men who waist all their hard earned money in the club. This is definitely another customer behavior you want to avoid!
Rule number two is you need to demonstrate ALL characteristics of an attractive male. I cover this in massive detail in Factors of Attraction blog so I’m not going to go into detail in this psot, but here’s some extra things to keep in mind when it comes to Exotic Dancers.
- Take the conversation outside the events happening in the club. Any boring guy can make comments about what’s going on in the here and now. Tell her stories that take her mind away from the strip club and to fun or interesting feelings of events outside the club that she can relate to.
- Avoid sexual topics. She deals with perverts all night, give her the relief of talking to a guy who’s interesting and not just interested in sex (even though you might be).
- Don’t compliment her on her looks. Customers validate her all night telling her how beautiful she is, she doesn’t need to hear it from you. If you find a commonality or unique thing you find interesting about her, other than her looks, then by all means go ahead and tell her, but stay away from complimenting her looks.
- Don’t be needy towards the girls. This is a topic I cover in Factors of Attraction blog, but it’s worth discussing again here. These women are usually very confident and socially savvy. They will pick up on neediness quickly so watch yourself. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t normally do, like don’t let her try to make you do things for her and tool you around. Be willing to tell her NO and/or walk away from any situation.
Show her that you can relate to and understand her world.
Women who work in a strip club often live an unusual lifestyle and they know that most men can’t handle it. Most of their life is spent in the club, dancing for strangers, going to parties, working late hours, and is often times fueled by drugs and alcohol. They know the average chode on the street can’t hang with this lifestyle so you need to convey that you can relate. How do you do this? Here are a few tips.
- DO NOT call them Strippers. Have you noticed that throughout this report, including the title, I’ve mainly used “Exotic Dancer” to refer to women who dance in gentlemen’s clubs? That’s because this is exactly what the dancers refer to themselves as. Use the term “Exotic Dancer” and avoid using “Stripper” when talking to them.
- Tell her you’ve dated an “Exotic Dancer” before. Want to show her that you understand her world and her lifestyle? The quickest way to do this is to tell her you’ve dated an Exotic Dancer in the past. This will put her mind at ease since you must already understand her lifestyle beings that you’ve dated an Exotic Dancer in the past.
- Take the time to really understand an Exotic Dancer’s world and take an inside look at her world. What better way to show her you understand her world than to actually understand it!
Like any other skill set, learning to pickup Exotic Dancers takes practice. At the end of the day these women are people too and you should take care to remember this when you are interacting with them. If you follow the 3 rules above and the guidelines that follow each of them seducing Exotic Dancers will become as easy as 1, 2, 3!