“The Truth Behind Female To Male Attraction”
What I’m about to share with you is going to change the way you think about attracting women and open up an entirely new world of opportunity for you.
Once you understand these concepts and learn how to apply them you might even smack yourself in the face for not noticing these things before. Don’t give yourself a hard time, 99% of men are clueless about these concepts.
This article is about Female to Male attraction, but before I get into the heart of this topic I want to take a quick second to talk about Male to Female attraction so we can compare and contrast the two to give you a better understanding.
What attracts a Man to a Woman is obvious but it’s important that we compare this with what attracts Women to Men so that you can see that there is a significant difference in the two.
If I were to ask you to make a list of what you find attractive in a woman, what would you write down?
I want you to be brutally honest with me here. Don’t avoid writing tits and ass to try to be wholesome and nice!
I’m talking about a supermodel walking in the room, and you feel instant attraction. What attracts you to her?
I think the most honest list we would see would look something like this:
Beautiful Facial Features
And other physical qualities
Men are hard wired to be attracted to a woman’s physical qualities. Men decide within SECONDS of seeing a woman whether or not they are attracted.
Admit it, you see a hot girl walking across the room and you feel a powerful attraction before you’ve even spoken a word to her! This is OK, we are supposed to be that way!
Men are evolutionarily programmed to seek out attractive females because they have the highest chance of producing the strongest and most attractive offspring, therefore giving our genes a better chance of being passed on.
In most cultures this is very obvious common knowledge stuff. Why else would women spend thousands of dollars on beauty supplies, diets, clothes, surgery, and other things to make themselves beautiful?
Women do this kind of stuff to make themselves more physically attractive, so they can be attractive to the opposite sex, therefore giving them more mates to choose from.
Ok, so maybe I haven’t told you anything you don’t already know yet. But now that we have Male to Female attraction more clearly defined, we can take a look at Female to Male attraction, which is COMPLETELY DIFFERENT!
“What Attracts Women To Men Is Not So Obvious, But If You Understand This You Can Flip Any Woman’s Attraction Switches…”
I want you to take a minute and come up with a list of all the things you think women are attracted to in men.
Now write these qualities women find attractive in men down in a list like we did above. This is a harder one isn’t it?
When I ask men this question, these are some of the common qualities I will see on their lists:
Chiseled facial features
Did you see any of these things on your list? If you did you can begin smacking yourself because these things have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH ATTRACTION!
Some of you might not believe me yet. This is because we’ve been socially conditioned through popular media such as book, movies, magazines, television, and internet to believe that these things are what women look for in a man.
While it makes a good fairytale story in movies, it unfortunately gives men the wrong idea about attracting women!
I know what some of you doubters are thinking now. If you ask a woman what she is attracted to what do you think she would say?
She would probably say something like, “I like a tall man, with a nice stomach, cute face, nice muscles, who treats me like a gentleman.”
I bet if you took this same hypothetical woman we are generalizing about and looked at the men she has dated or slept with, they would be nothing like what she described above.
The reason is because what a woman LOGICALLY thinks she wants in a man is NOT what she EMOTIONALLY responds to!
Now we’re getting somewhere! Read the line above ten times out loud so your subconscious hears it.
This is incredibly important for you to understand. A woman’s attraction switches are in her emotions, not in her logic!
Think about the standard approach most men have with women. They walk up, introduce themselves, and start asking logical questions like “What’s your name?”, “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”
Engaging a woman like this will NOT spark attraction because you are approaching her logically. You need to learn how to approach her on an emotional level so you can flip her emotional attraction switches!
“So How Do You Flip These Emotional Switches?”
Earlier we talked about how men become attracted to a woman within seconds of seeing her. The same is not true about a woman’s attraction to men.
Women take minutes if not hours to decide if they are attracted to a man and attraction can fluctuate up and down at any time during your interactions with her.
Furthermore physical characteristics have little, if not nothing, to do with a woman’s attraction towards a man. Female to Male attraction is very different in the fact that women are hard wired differently.
Women are evolutionarily hard wired to seek out dominant males. Dominant males offer survival value, which is good for the survival of herself and her offspring. This increases the chances of her genes being passed on.
This does not mean you have to be a big hulky male to get women. In fact it’s quite the opposite. Any man can learn to convey these characteristics and gain attraction very quickly from any woman.
In seeking out dominate males women look to the following when judging attraction:
Women are hard wired to be attracted to a man’s behavioral cues.
Women read social cues to see how others are reacting towards that man.
With that said, if we were to go back to our list of qualities women are attracted to in men it would change to be something more like this:
Comfort in your environment
Ability to stand out
Liked by other women
Indifference to what other people think
Boundaries of what you will accept from others
Control over your emotions and your reality
These are characteristics that are sub-communicated through behavior and social cues that women become attracted to!
Notice you don’t see anything about physical qualities, money, age, or being a nice guy!
Have you ever seen a woman with a man and wondered “why is she with that guy?”
Maybe the guy is 6 inches shorter than her, maybe he’s fat, maybe he’s 15 years older, or maybe he treats her like crap, but for “some reason” she is attracted to him.
That “some reason” is because this man has attracted her emotionally by sub-communicating attraction to her!
The same holds true as to why women are attracted to “bad boys”. It’s because these men automatically flip the right attraction switches for her!
I’m not saying that you have to be a bad boy or not be nice to women. You can sub-communicate the right qualities and flip these same switches without having to be a jerk to women!