“Still Searching For The Best Pick Up Lines? I’m Going To Teach You Secrets To Attracting Women That Most Men Will Never Know About… “

Dear Friend,

Are you still looking for the best pick up lines for approaching women? Do you have the guts to walk up to a mixed group of men and women in order to get the girl you want?

When you are doing a cold approach, meaning walking up to strangers you’ve never met before, there are two ways to approach.

You either open direct or indirect. Let me explain…

When you open direct, this means you give a statement of intent right away letting her know that you are interested in her.

An example would be, “You are really cute, I had to come over here and see if there’s more to you than meets the eye.”

Anytime you give a statement of intent such as “You are really cute…” you want to balance that with a statement of disinterest such as “…I had to come over here and see if there’s more to you than meets the eye.”

Giving a compliment directly and waiting for her reaction can make her feel uncomfortable and make you seem needy and low value. Balancing it out like in the above opener shows that you value more than just her beauty.

Another example of a direct opener done in this way would be, “You’re very beautiful, but I bet we’d never get along”. This statement shows interest but also adds a challenge to her when you balance it out with “…but I bet we’d never get along.”

Opening direct can present problems when you have to approach a group of people. You might not want to give a statement of intent because you don’t want the rest of the group to “cock block” you.

This is when we use indirect openers. Indirect openers are neutral in that they give no indicators that you are after the girl. An indirect opener should engage the entire group and get them all interested in you.

An example would be “Hey guys, real quick, can I get your opinion on something? Who do you think lies more, guys or girls?”

This will start a conversation with the group in a neutral friendly way. After you’ve launched into this type of opener you can then move into a story and begin to befriend the group while pumping up the attraction with the woman you are interested in.

“Can She Be My Soul Mate?”

Many men use the idea of having a soul mate as a comfort tool. They believe that one day they’ll meet that special someone and all of their dating and relationship problems will magically disappear. This is a terrible way of thinking.

Scarcity Mindset

Men who have few options with women have what is called a Scarcity Mindset. This limited mindset causes men to hold false beliefs and inhibit bad behavior toward the women they choose. A man who feels he has limited choices will easily obsess and/or attach himself to the few women he meets. Lets explore this further.

The Fantasy Of “The One”

Society pours the idea down your throat that there is only one person out there for you. They call them “the one”, “soul mates”, “twin flame”, or any other ridiculous name. These things are about as real as Santa Claus, Tooth Fairies, and Leprechauns, yet so many people like to fantasize that they are real.

The truth is there is not one person you are meant for. Holding this belief only holds you back from seeing the truth and having real options in your dating life. Sure some women are more “compatible” for you than others, but with over 3 billion women on this planet to choose from if you’re still thinking there’s only one for you, you are only limiting yourself.

People like to convince themselves that they’ve found a soul mate when they’ve made poor choices with who they date then all of a sudden someone comes along that they actually have things in common with and because they’ve never experienced this before they call them their “soul mate”.

Thinking that you can’t feel the same way about any other person is a false belief. That’s great that you were able to establish a strong bond with one woman but to think you can’t feel that same way about another woman is completely false. This type of mentality keeps people from moving on after relationships. It keeps them from getting out of bad relationships they should have never been in in the first place!

Be Complete On Your Own

We’ve all heard the other suck up false belief, “you complete me”. Men and women who are looking for someone to complete them are only hiding the fact from themselves that they don’t feel complete as a person on their own.

You need to find yourself and be completely satisfied with who you are, don’t try to find yourself in another person. You need to have more going on for you than her. Think about how unattractive that is to have nothing going on for yourself than her.

The moment you make her the center of who you are you lose the very thing that made her attracted to you. She was likely attracted to you for who you were and all the interesting things about you. Now if what you have going on for yourself is her, she will not be attracted to you.

This mentality will make you start to get needy toward her. You might subconsciously start sucking up to her. You might seek her approval as if she’s better than you. She will quickly pick up on these queues and lose attraction for you.

Learn To See Abundance

Once you learn to see abundance in the women you have to choose from it will open up a whole new world of opportunity for your dating life. You will never come from a “take what you can get” mind frame. You will see a ton of choice and will allow yourself to become choosy.

Guys often settle for someone they don’t actually want. When you’re with a woman and you are going to be exclusive with her ask your self, “If I could be with anyone I wanted, no matter what, would I choose this woman”. If the answer is no, you have made the wrong decision.

If you’re the type that’s only taken what he can get you likely don’t know what you want. Sure you should have a basic idea of what type of women you prefer, but you don’t really know what you want unless you’ve experienced a lot of different women. You might realize the type you think you want might turn out to not be right for you once you’ve dated that type.

There are a lot of women who also have Scarcity Mindset, but beautiful women do not. They have tons of men to choose from and they know it. They cannot relate to a man who doesn’t also see abundance. Women are attracted to men who are choosers, not men who wait to be chosen.

People are often scared to get out of relationships that they know aren’t right for them because they are scared that they won’t find someone else. It is important that you make being an attractive man a part of your identity and you are able keep that identity and still see abundance even in a relationship.

This will allow you to make healthier relationship decisions for yourself. If you decide that a relationship is not good for you it is easier to walk away knowing that you can get another woman rather than staying and creating an unhealthy situation for both of you because you lack the ability to see abundance.

You must believe there is abundance to receive abundance because once you believe your thoughts and actions will cause behavior that will allow it. Use this new mindset to allow you to not be needy or care about the outcome of any interaction. Be willing to walk away from all interactions.

Picking a mate is a big deal so be choosy. Keep your options open and get experienced. Whoever you do choose will be grateful because you’re a man with options and you chose her!

“Dating Tips For Guys – How To Gain Attraction From Any Woman”

Congratulations on finding this article on dating tips for guys, you are about to join the 1% of men who know the correct information on how to attract a woman. What I’m going to give you is so much more than just dating tips for guys, I’m going to explain to you how attraction works for both men and women and how you can use that to your advantage to attract any woman you desire.

The first thing you must understand is that the way attraction works for a man is much different then the way attraction works for a woman. As a man you base whether or not you are attracted to a woman mostly on her appearance or the way she looks.

There is nothing wrong with this, in fact as men our brains are actually hard wired to work in this way. That’s why when you see a beautiful woman you can instantly know whether or not you would have sex with her. Women also know this, that’s why they spend so much time and money on things such as makeup, clothes, and anything else to make there outer appearance more attractive. A woman who is more attractive sub-communicates to men that she has better genes and thus is able to produce stronger off spring with a greater chance of survival.

Logically then as men we can assume that women are attracted to the same things such as looks, right? Wrong in fact that statement could not be more false. Looks are the least important factor when it comes to attracting a woman. You can add money, what kind of job you have, and what kind of car you drive to the list of things that don’t matter when attracting women. Attraction for a woman is all based on emotion where as a man’s attraction is based on logic.

A woman’s emotion attraction part of her brain is like a set of switches that can be switched in your favor or against you all depending on how you make her feel. So when you flip the switches in your favor she’s attracted to you and when you flip them against you she’s not attracted to you. Let me say it again flipping this switches has NOTHING to do with your looks or how much money you have!

The key to flipping her emotional switches to is display the characteristics that she would be attracted to. Such as confidence, being your own man, living by your own set of values and the list goes on and on. When you’re flipping her switches you’re connecting with her on a very deep emotional level and she can’t help but be attracted to you. Just as men are hard wired to respond to beauty, women are hard wired to respond to an emotional connection.

The best part about this is you can actually learn exactly what it takes to be able to flip a woman’s emotional switches and have her attracted to you in a matter of seconds! This kind of stuff will work on any woman in any situation because all women respond to the same things. As you can see this goes much deeper than just a few dating tips for guys, it’s about learning a skill set and being able to have choice in the women you date.

“Do Looks Matter? What Women Really Want”

One question I get asked all the time is do looks matter to women? Well yes and no, physical appearance such as height and weight are not the most important factor of attraction to women, but it is part of the overall package. With that being said there are things that are under your control in your physical appearance and these include style and grooming.

The single most important part of having style is to be able to stand out from the crowd and be congruent with it. What we mean by congruent is your style has to fit with your personality. For example, if you’re a doctor or a lawyer you’re probably not going to go out dressed like a punk rocker. You wouldn’t be congruent with that image.

You need to look at yourself and figure out what kind of image you want to portray. Know that if you dress gothic you’re probably going to attract more gothic girls. If you’re going for that punk rock girl it helps to have a little rocker edge to your style.

So how do you stand out from the crowd? Your work clothes are your work clothes. Go and buy some clothes specifically for going out. When going out you want to show that you have style and that you can stand out in a unique fashion. Women notice when you’re wearing something different from everyone else.

Typically if you’re dressed different you will have to put up with more social pressure. Guys might come up and tease you on what you’re wearing. This is why a lot of guys dress the same. They can’t take social pressure or stand up for their individuality. Being able to take social pressure is an attractive quality to women because it shows that you’re a strong male and can stand up for yourself and thus will be able to stand up for her and protect her.

Get something that’s a little different from the norm. The polo shirt is not a good shirt for picking up chicks. Get something that is unique that women will notice and start a conversation with you by asking about it. You’ll be amazed how often this can happen.

Shop somewhere besides department or trendy mall stores. Every city has little unique shops where you can find lots of cool gear. Get a city guide and find the shops in your area. If you travel often buy unique items from different cities.

Always try clothes on. They may look good on the rack but may look like hell on you.

One of the best things you can do is take a woman shopping with you. Women have great sense of style and can be a big help. Women are very observant. They notice the little things.

Accessorizing is a great way to stand out. Get a couple rings and necklaces to wear out. Get a stylish pair of shoes or boots. Boots in particular are good because not everyone wears boots and they will also give you a little height.

If you wear glasses consider getting contacts or laser surgery. If you insist on glasses, but they haven’t been updated since the stone ages, get some new frames.

Instead of going for a $9.99 haircut at the generic barber shop, go for the salon haircut that may cost you a little bit more but is worth it. They will be able to match a haircut with your facial features and it will really show. Don’t be afraid to throw a little color in too.

While you’re at the salon consider getting excess hair waxed. Wax your eyebrows to even them up and prevent unibrow. If you have excess hair on your back, chest, and stomach consider waxing those areas as well. These are personal decisions as some women like their men hairy. Younger generations of women tend to like their men groomed with less body hair.

Women make an effort to smell nice for their men. Return the favor by getting some designer cologne. This is something else that is nice to have a woman’s opinion on. Women tend to be the ones selling designer colognes so you can get her opinion on it before buying. Cologne smells different on different people depending on the oils on your skin so make sure you know what it smells like on you. It may smell nice on the test paper but once you mix it with the oils on your skin it might smell different.

Always keep your nails at the very least trimmed. If you really want them nice go for a manicure. Women do a lot of grooming to their bodies so keep in mind that what a woman does to herself she will take notice to on men. Not to say that you have to become some girly man, just don’t look like a slob.

“Dating Tips for Shy Guys – How To Start A Conversation”

Want to know some great dating tips for shy guys? If so then you’ve come to the right place. For this article I’m going to focus on the biggest problem most shy guys have and that’s starting a conversation with a woman.

When you go up to a woman to start a conversation this is known as opening or using an opener. In it’s simplest terms it just means you’re saying something to get her attention and to start a conversation.

There are two ways that you can open. The most common way most men open is to use a direct opener something to effect of saying to a woman “You’re so cute” or complementing her on her appearance in some way.

While this may work some of the time using this method telegraphs right way that you are interested sexually in her, which may scare her off.

The method I recommend using is an indirect opener. The best indirect openers telegraph no interest and ask an opened ended question (Meaning the woman can’t simply answer yes or no) and allow you to tell a interesting story.

A perfect example of a indirect opener is an Opinion Opener. Here is an example of an opinion opener. “Hey can I get your opinion on something? Do you think it’s weird if guys wear eye liner?”

The woman will then give her opinion then you can go into an interesting story explaining why you asked the question. From the example above you could say “Well I was wearing eye liner out the other night and I had so many women coming up to me saying how sexy my eyes were, but all my guy friends thought it was weird.”

This opener will work great because it telegraphs no interest and your story gives you high social status by describing how you were surrounded by women all night long telling you how sexy you are.

There you go, one of the best dating tips for shy guys is to use an opinion opener to start a conversation. You can make up your own opinion openers with real stories from your own life and they’ll work great!

The most important thing to remember is that your opinion openers telegraph no interest and that they ask an open ended question. Once you’ve opened then you can start the attraction process and that’s where the fun really begins.