Factors Of Attraction

Don’t Be Afraid To Escalate Sexually

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One of the biggest mistakes men make once they’ve been talking to a woman for awhile, and things seem to be going well, is they don’t escalate further than just having a normal conversation. Once things are going well many men don’t take things further because they don’t want to screw things up, or they don’t believe that the woman could really be into them.

When you don’t escalate things in a sexual nature you are communicating to the woman that you don’t want a sexual relationship with her. You’re conveying that you just want to be friends and you’re likely to hear the words “just friends”.

Once you’ve been placed in the friend zone it’s very hard to get out of and if you’re in the friend zone and try to escalate sexually it will just come off as weird. If you find yourself in the friend zone with a woman it is usually best to move on and be happy you’ve made a new friend.

To avoid the friend zone you want to make your intentions known very early in the interaction. You are a sexual being and so is she. Don’t be afraid to be a man and bring out the woman in her.

By making your intentions known to her you are communicating that you are an alpha male who’s not afraid to go for what he wants, this is very attractive to her.

There are tons of different ways to escalate in the interaction.

Here are just a few examples:

–  Communicate to her that she is sexy

–  Touch her

–  Tickle her

–  Kiss her

–  Make up pet names for her

–  Whisper things in her ear

–  When seated slowly start bringing your legs together so that they touch every so often.

If when you’re attempting to escalate and she seems a little distant it is probably because she doesn’t feel comfortable enough with you yet, so go back to normal conversation and try to escalate again later.

It’s important that if this does happen to not let it affect you, remember you are the confident alpha male that lives in his own reality and nothing bothers you. A woman wants to be picked up, but she wants you to do it. She’s not just going to hand her self over to you this is why it is so important to ESCALATE!

Men often pre-occupy themselves with trying to figure out if a woman is in to them. There are tons of subtle little things a woman will do while talking to you to let you know that she is interested in you sexually. Such as playful touching, flipping her hair, putting on lip-gloss, and the list goes on and on.

Rather then being to concerned at looking for these cues it’s a better practice to always assume it’s on, or always assume she’s into you and you can escalate in a sexual nature at any time. This is a better way of thinking for a couple different reasons.

  1. If you are always looking for cues that’s she’s into you, you can become to involved in looking for these cues and you’ll come off as you’re seeking to get something from her.
  2. When you always assume it’s on you are implanting in your head that all women want you and they have no choice but to be into you. What you believe to be true will become true.

So now that you know you need to escalate there is one more thing to keep in mind. When escalating in a public venue, such as a bar or club, you want to make sure to not escalate to far, to far meaning going past making out and going to arousal. Escalating this far can cause regret. Then she will associate those bad feelings toward you. Wait till you get to a private location before taking it to that level.

Here are some other key points to keep in mind when escalating:

Kissing or making out in a club is not a big deal to women. Often times an attractive woman will have multiple make outs every weekend she goes out and has kissed thousands of guys over her lifetime. Once you start thinking this way you will notice how incredibly easy it is to get a make out in the club.

Just because you got a make out doesn’t mean you’re going to get her number or hang out with her later, you just made out with her that’s it.

It is possible to have sex with a woman the same night you meet her. What you believe can happen will happen. There is no set amount of time a woman takes to decide to have sex with you. Once you display the right characteristics to her and she feels she knows the real you she will be ready for sex. She may take a week before she is ready with one man or she could be ready that night if a man is able to flip enough of her attraction switches.

Many men feel they need to wait to have sex with a woman in fear of disrespecting her or ruining their chances of becoming her boyfriend this is total bullshit! Having sex with a woman quickly will not ruin the chance of a future relationship with her! Actually if you have more of a chance of losing her if you get her to the point of being ready and wanting sex and not pulling the trigger!

3 Rules for Ultimate Success with Exotic Dancers

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Ever since I started Factors of Attraction Blog the feedback has been great! Men have been enjoying success with women that they never imagined.

One question that I commonly get asked is “How can I improve success with picking up and dating Exotic Dancers (Strippers)?”

Exotic Dancers are a unique niche group of women that require certain guidelines if you want to be successful in taking them home. While sometimes it can seem difficult, Exotic Dancers can be the easiest women to seduce!

OK, lets get started…

RULE #1

The number one rule when it comes to picking up Exotic Dancers is NEVER let the dancers see you as a customer! Strippers are in the club to make money. Their job is to get money from men who are willing to pay them for attention, aka “The Customer”. This is why a Stripper’s number one rule is never date a customer! It’s bad for business!

How do you avoid being the “customer” at the strip club? Here are rules you need to stick to in order to avoid being a customer.

  • NEVER for any reason spend money on a Stripper! Once you spend money on her the chances of her seeing you as anything other than the other horny losers in the club are slim. This is not about being a cheap asshole. It’s about staying away from being labeled a “customer” and ruining your chances with her.
  • Do NOT let the Strippers dance for you. Again it is extremely important for the girls to not see you as a customer. Getting a dance is the quickest way to get labeled a customer. I know it can be very tempting to get a dance when you have a beautiful woman who is mostly naked right there willing to do so, but you must avoid this action now if you want to take her home later!
  • Do NOT touch the girls. You are trying to convey that you are a cool guy, not another pervert customer. Play it cool and don’t touch the girls. If they touch you be cool and don’t make a big deal out of it.
  • Do NOT stay in the club for a long time. This is a common behavior shared amongst the desperate men who waist all their hard earned money in the club. This is definitely another customer behavior you want to avoid!

Rule #2

Rule number two is you need to demonstrate ALL characteristics of an attractive male. I cover this in massive detail in Factors of Attraction blog so I’m not going to go into detail in this psot, but here’s some extra things to keep in mind when it comes to Exotic Dancers.

  • Take the conversation outside the events happening in the club. Any boring guy can make comments about what’s going on in the here and now. Tell her stories that take her mind away from the strip club and to fun or interesting feelings of events outside the club that she can relate to.
  • Avoid sexual topics. She deals with perverts all night, give her the relief of talking to a guy who’s interesting and not just interested in sex (even though you might be).
  • Don’t compliment her on her looks. Customers validate her all night telling her how beautiful she is, she doesn’t need to hear it from you. If you find a commonality or unique thing you find interesting about her, other than her looks, then by all means go ahead and tell her, but stay away from complimenting her looks.
  • Don’t be needy towards the girls. This is a topic I cover in Factors of Attraction blog, but it’s worth discussing again here. These women are usually very confident and socially savvy. They will pick up on neediness quickly so watch yourself. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t normally do, like don’t let her try to make you do things for her and tool you around. Be willing to tell her NO and/or walk away from any situation.

RULE #3

Show her that you can relate to and understand her world.

Women who work in a strip club often live an unusual lifestyle and they know that most men can’t handle it. Most of their life is spent in the club, dancing for strangers, going to parties, working late hours, and is often times fueled by drugs and alcohol. They know the average chode on the street can’t hang with this lifestyle so you need to convey that you can relate. How do you do this? Here are a few tips.

  • DO NOT call them Strippers. Have you noticed that throughout this report, including the title, I’ve mainly used “Exotic Dancer” to refer to women who dance in gentlemen’s clubs? That’s because this is exactly what the dancers refer to themselves as. Use the term “Exotic Dancer” and avoid using “Stripper” when talking to them.
  • Tell her you’ve dated an “Exotic Dancer” before. Want to show her that you understand her world and her lifestyle? The quickest way to do this is to tell her you’ve dated an Exotic Dancer in the past. This will put her mind at ease since you must already understand her lifestyle beings that you’ve dated an Exotic Dancer in the past.
  • Take the time to really understand an Exotic Dancer’s world and take an inside look at her world. What better way to show her you understand her world than to actually understand it!

Conclusion:

Like any other skill set, learning to pickup Exotic Dancers takes practice. At the end of the day these women are people too and you should take care to remember this when you are interacting with them. If you follow the 3 rules above and the guidelines that follow each of them seducing Exotic Dancers will become as easy as 1, 2, 3!

 

Approach Anxiety

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“Approach Anxiety – Why Are You Scared To Talk To Girls?”
Approach Anxiety
Approach anxiety is an emotional fear that you feel all throughout your entire body when you are about ready to approach a woman. It can be such a powerful feeling that you may feel like you can’t even move. Needless to say this can be a very frustrating problem to deal with.

The fear of the approach is actually hard wired into your brain from all the way back in the cave man days. You see when we used to live in tribes we had to be very careful with the women we would choose to approach. Approaching the wrong woman at the wrong time could mean the end of your life. You didn’t know if they were already taken and if their mate would come and bash a rock over your head. Or you risked being rejected by her and word getting out that you are not worthy male and thus be forced out of the tribe to find a mate which would then mean you would have to be on your own and chance of survival would be very low. So back in this era is was actually a good thing to have approach anxiety, it kept you alive and out of harms way.

However as you can see this day and age approach anxiety serves no purpose at all. You generally don’t have to worry about some other guy bashing a rock over your head or one single girl telling the whole world how she had to turn you down. Never the less the fear of approach is still engraved inside us all.

Can approach anxiety ever be cured? Unfortunately no, not totally anyway you will always have a little sense of fear when approaching an attractive woman, but the more and more you approach women the less and less severe the approach anxiety becomes. Now that you have a better understanding of what approach anxiety is and where it comes from you will at least be able to acknowledge the feeling and move on and talk to the girl!

First Date Tips

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Tips for making the first date a success

A typical first date would be dinner perhaps some drinks, maybe catch a movie and then you both go home, sound familiar?

It should this is what 99.9% of men plan out for a first date. So what’s wrong with this? Well lets take a look at each different scenario. Take meeting someone for dinner, it sounds wonderful you know for sure that you both eat so why not go for dinner. Usually a first date the two parties don’t know each other very well and are going to be somewhat uncomfortable around each other. Then adding in that you have to eat in front of each other adds even more uncomfortableness. Since you’re not doing anything but eating the conversation could and probably will sway towards the boring side leading to awkward pauses and so on.

So dinner is out what about the movie? This is probably the stupidest thing you could do on a first date because you’re not going to be able to talk to each other. You’re not going to know her and she’s not going to know you any better than if you’d just met on the street. There’s nothing more awkward then sitting next to someone who you’re on a first date with and not talking to them for two hours and then getting out of the movie and your both thinking “okay so what now?”

So now that you know you can’t take her to a movie or out to dinner then what do you do? Glad you asked, here is the top secret method to making all your first dates a raging success make it FUN! I can’t stress that fact enough do something that is fun and something that she has probably not ever done on a first date. The key in all of this is to stand out from the rest of the pack every guy takes her on boring dates, you be the first one to take her on a date she’ll never forget.

Here are some great Date Ideas:

– Flying trapeze lessons

– Dance lessons (salsa, etc)

– Art Lesson

– Pottery Making

– Laser Tag

– Hiking

– Cooking Dinner (both must be active)

– Puzzle Night and Wine (Low Key) Must be the right type of girl

– Sporting Event

– Hookah Bar

– Picnic in a park

– Wine tasting

– Rock climbing

– Build a kite together

– Ice Skating

– Boating

Here are some tips to keep in mind while planning your date:

– Don’t tell her what you’re doing – Women love surprises when she doesn’t know what’s going to be happening she’ll be thinking about it all the time leading up until the date and thus be thinking about you all the time, which is a good thing.

– Make the date last around 1 – 2 hours – You don’t want to drag the date on. If it’s going well you can always decide to do something else together but its a good rule of thumb to always leave her wanting more.

– Always have an out – If the dates starts to go bad have some sort of an escape plan. For example have your buddy text you at a certain time and that gives you the option of making up a story about some emergency if the dates heading in the wrong direction.

– Always go for the kiss at some point during the date – If you don’t kiss her she may be wondering if you even like her and you risk being thrown into the “Friend Zone”. Make your intentions known.

– Scope out the date place – Make yourself familiar with the date location and surroundings. You should also be familiar with whatever activity you decide to do. For example if you’re going to fly a kite make sure you know how to fly a kite.

– If your deciding where to go (which you should) and it costs money you should at least have enough money to pay for her.

Last but not least just make sure you’re having fun because if you’re having fun chances are so is she and by following these simple guidelines you should have no problem scoring the second date!

First Kiss How To

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How To Kiss A Woman For The First Time

This article is your official First Kiss How To Guide. After this you will have no problem knowing how and when to kiss a woman for the first time.

The biggest mistake most men make when it comes to getting physical with a woman is they wait until the end of the night before even touching the woman. This creates an awkwardness that is felt by both parties and can ruin your chances of seeing her again.

You should always do some flirty touching early in the interaction to make getting physical feel more natural. You should also kiss her during the date or interaction rather than waiting until the end of the night. This will bring you closer together and build a greater level of comfort earlier in the relationship.

When a woman is ready to be kissed she might give off little queues indicating that she is ready. If you catch her looking down at your lips and then back up at your eyes this is an indicator she is ready. If she licks her lips and / or puts on lip gloss or lip balm she is ready to be kissed. If you get close to her face and touch her hair and she doesn’t hesitate or back away she is ready for you to kiss her.

Women do not always show queues that they are ready to be kissed. If you find yourself thinking “should I kiss her” you should almost always go for it. When you are to the point of thinking this she’s probably been ready for awhile!

If you do not know how to initiate the kiss you can say the following:

You: “On a scale of 1 to 10 how good of a kisser are you?”

Her: “I don’t know, maybe an 8”

You: “Show me.”

(Pull her in for the kiss)

After the kiss you can playfully tease her about how she rated herself. Now the tension of the first kiss is gone and you can both enjoy sharing kisses for the rest of the night!