“Do Looks Matter? What Women Really Want”
One question I get asked all the time is do looks matter to women? Well yes and no, physical appearance such as height and weight are not the most important factor of attraction to women, but it is part of the overall package. With that being said there are things that are under your control in your physical appearance and these include style and grooming.
The single most important part of having style is to be able to stand out from the crowd and be congruent with it. What we mean by congruent is your style has to fit with your personality. For example, if you’re a doctor or a lawyer you’re probably not going to go out dressed like a punk rocker. You wouldn’t be congruent with that image.
You need to look at yourself and figure out what kind of image you want to portray. Know that if you dress gothic you’re probably going to attract more gothic girls. If you’re going for that punk rock girl it helps to have a little rocker edge to your style.
So how do you stand out from the crowd? Your work clothes are your work clothes. Go and buy some clothes specifically for going out. When going out you want to show that you have style and that you can stand out in a unique fashion. Women notice when you’re wearing something different from everyone else.
Typically if you’re dressed different you will have to put up with more social pressure. Guys might come up and tease you on what you’re wearing. This is why a lot of guys dress the same. They can’t take social pressure or stand up for their individuality. Being able to take social pressure is an attractive quality to women because it shows that you’re a strong male and can stand up for yourself and thus will be able to stand up for her and protect her.
Get something that’s a little different from the norm. The polo shirt is not a good shirt for picking up chicks. Get something that is unique that women will notice and start a conversation with you by asking about it. You’ll be amazed how often this can happen.
Shop somewhere besides department or trendy mall stores. Every city has little unique shops where you can find lots of cool gear. Get a city guide and find the shops in your area. If you travel often buy unique items from different cities.
Always try clothes on. They may look good on the rack but may look like hell on you.
One of the best things you can do is take a woman shopping with you. Women have great sense of style and can be a big help. Women are very observant. They notice the little things.
Accessorizing is a great way to stand out. Get a couple rings and necklaces to wear out. Get a stylish pair of shoes or boots. Boots in particular are good because not everyone wears boots and they will also give you a little height.
If you wear glasses consider getting contacts or laser surgery. If you insist on glasses, but they haven’t been updated since the stone ages, get some new frames.
Instead of going for a $9.99 haircut at the generic barber shop, go for the salon haircut that may cost you a little bit more but is worth it. They will be able to match a haircut with your facial features and it will really show. Don’t be afraid to throw a little color in too.
While you’re at the salon consider getting excess hair waxed. Wax your eyebrows to even them up and prevent unibrow. If you have excess hair on your back, chest, and stomach consider waxing those areas as well. These are personal decisions as some women like their men hairy. Younger generations of women tend to like their men groomed with less body hair.
Women make an effort to smell nice for their men. Return the favor by getting some designer cologne. This is something else that is nice to have a woman’s opinion on. Women tend to be the ones selling designer colognes so you can get her opinion on it before buying. Cologne smells different on different people depending on the oils on your skin so make sure you know what it smells like on you. It may smell nice on the test paper but once you mix it with the oils on your skin it might smell different.
Always keep your nails at the very least trimmed. If you really want them nice go for a manicure. Women do a lot of grooming to their bodies so keep in mind that what a woman does to herself she will take notice to on men. Not to say that you have to become some girly man, just don’t look like a slob.