One question that I get asked all the time is how to get out of the friend zone with a woman. My normal and first response would be to just move on here are the reasons why.
One, because once a woman sees you as a friend it can be very difficult for her to switch gears and start seeing you as a lover. Two, you are coming from a bit of a scarcity mindset wanting to get this one girl when there are so many other girls to choose from. Three, you can never have too many women around you even if some are just friends they are still women and other women will see this and be more open to getting to know you because already other women think you’re cool (this is called being social proofed).
With that being said, if you really want to try there is one way to get out of the friend zone and it’s very counter intuitive. Most men think that if they’re there for her whenever she needs them or if they’re her shoulder to cry on and listen to all her guy problems and if they do all the things she wishes a man would do for her that all of a sudden one day she’ll just “snap out of it” and see you as the perfect boyfriend she’s always been looking for.
I’ve got news for you, it isn’t going to happen this way. What will happen is one day you’ll finally fess up to her how you feel and she’ll look at you like you’re from another planet and your friendship will never be the same if you can even remain friends.
The reason is because from the beginning of the relationship you have never acted in a sexual way towards her. You have always just acted as her friend so big surprise that’s how she sees you as nothing more than a friend and when all of a sudden you want more than that it creeps her out.
Here’s what you need to do. You need to make her start seeing you as a sexual male. When you’re around her talk about other women, talk about how you hooked up with other women. By doing this she has no choice but to imagine you kissing and hooking up with other women this will subconsciously make her start to see you in a sexual way.
You need to stop listening to all her problems especially when she starts to talk about other guys. Simply tell her that you don’t want to hear it and change the subject. Don’t be available to her whenever she wants you. This means hang out on more of your schedule not hers. If she calls and wants to do something tell her your busy or that you have a date.
The most important thing you must do is have her see other woman around you. This means you need to get out and actually find other women to go out with. It’s very important that these other women see you in a sexual way. By her seeing other women responding to you in a sexual way she will have no choice but to see you in this way also and the attraction will start to build.
As I mentioned before even with using these methods getting out of the friend zone can be quite difficult. Some women just aren’t going to be interested in something more. Whether or not you become more than just friends you’re relationship will change in some way so you have to be willing to risk the friendship you already have with her.
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