If you were on an airplane that crash-landed on a deserted island with fifty other people would you be a natural leader? How about when you’re out with your friends, are you one of the leaders of your group? If your answer to either of these was “no” you likely don’t have the choice you would like with women either.
Women are naturally programmed to seek out leaders. If you can show her that you are the leader of your group and/or establish yourself as an authority in her world you will get massive attraction. A leader will convey all characteristics of confidence, which we’ve already discussed. Lets talk about what it is to be a strong leader.
You may have heard the expression, “Lead the men, and the women will follow”. You can convey that you are a natural leader by entering a group and gaining control of the interaction. This doesn’t mean talking over everyone in the group. If you are able to approach the group and gain the attention of everyone in the group you can convey that you are the leader. If you are telling an interesting story and everyone in the group is reacting to you, the women will subconsciously see you as a leader.
Many men misinterpret being a leader and think that they must dominate and lead everything. That is not what being a leader is all about. That just makes you come off as a socially awkward asshole! Don’t be that guy!
A strong leader makes others feel good about their positive attributes. You want others to feel like they are at their best when they are around you. When a leader gives a compliment he means it and it doesn’t come from a place of “suck up”.
As a leader you shouldn’t be concerned about power and authority but rather respect of the group. Realize that everyone in the group has value and bring that out in a way that makes others feel good about having you there.
When you are out with a woman you can show leadership by being decisive. Know what your plan is and make it happen without asking for permission. If an unexpected decision comes along don’t sit and hesitate, just do what you feel is right. Women like it when a guy is decisive and able to make quick decisions.
If leadership does not come naturally for you, realize it will take time to work on this. If you’ve already set a dynamic with a friend or group where they are clearly the leader and you try to take that roll they may take notice and not like it. It takes time to calibrate your leadership abilities but make it a high priority to do so in all current and future relationships.