Meet Women - Factors Of Attraction

The question of how to be more attractive to women is a very broad subject. For this article I will focus on a somewhat counter intuitive way of attracting women and that is to not care if you attract them at all.

Let me explain, you see women have a very keen sense to know when a man is trying too hard to gain there attention and when they sense this they automatically lose any kind of attraction they may have had for you. The reason being when you’re trying too hard to gain the approval of a woman you’re actually sub communicating to her that you are of lower value then she is and you desperately need her approval to make yourself feel better about yourself.

This is very typical behavior of a man with little of no confidence. Examples of this can be buying a woman a drink before even knowing one thing about her. Telling her how beautiful she is without taking anytime to get to know her and any type of behavior that could be considered “sucking up.”

So what do you do? Simply don’t care about what a woman thinks of you. If she doesn’t like you, who cares! Is it really that big of a deal if some little cute girl doesn’t like you? NO, life goes on!

So many men give such high value to women just because of their looks. They place them on a pedestal as if they’re some great prize that they’re trying to win. You have to learn to be confident with who you are and not seek any kind of validation from anyone else. This is called being non outcome dependent. Meaning in any interaction with a woman you don’t care what the outcome is. Is she ends up liking you great if not that’s great too because you don’t care. You’re okay with who you are with or without her approval.

The next time you go out practice being non outcome dependent and you’ll be amazed on the way women seem to become more and more attracted to you. You’ll actually have women competing for your attention and trying to win your approval.

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Every man should know how to convey confidence to a woman, but many don’t. The funny thing is it’s actually more what you should NOT do rather than do. Let’s take a look at what not to do then a few things to do.

Don’t Seek Approval

Have you ever found yourself going out of your way to please someone just to gain his or her approval? This is what we mean by seeking approval. This is a common behavior of insecure men. They see other people as more important than themselves and will do anything to get their approval.

Guys often seek approval from beautiful women because they see the value of the woman’s beauty to be better than themselves. Often guys will also seek the approval of the dominant males of groups. In both cases these guys are giving approval in order to gain approval but the outcome is the person from whom they are seeking approval actually sees them as lower value.

Celebrities are a good example of this. They constantly have people sucking up to them to gain their approval. If you were to meet a celebrity and suck up to them they wouldn’t see you as an equal. But if instead you are cool and interesting and treat them as an equal they will see you as an equal.

Don’t Suck Up To Women

This goes along with not seeking approval but lets dive a little deeper. Guys are constantly sucking up to woman to try to gain approval from them.

Men buy women drinks before getting to know them. They also compliment women before getting to know them as if this will buy the woman’s approval. They use lines like:

“Tell me something, girl. Did it hurt when you fell out of heaven?”

“You’re so sexy, let me buy you a drink”

This type of behavior is painfully insulting because it conveys that you are only interested in sex. It proves all you’re giving her credit for is her appearance and you want sex from her. Women are not sex objects and do not enjoy being treated like one.

Women (especially beautiful women) get this all the time. Some women take advantage of it by getting free drinks from suck ups. Then they ditch them to go find a guy who doesn’t have to buy her attention.

This does not mean you cannot compliment women. It’s just that when you do compliment consider the timing of the compliment and what you might be complimenting on.

Give her something to be interested in you about. Once you’ve gotten to know her a little you could compliment her on her personality, style, or anything other than her looks. Then you will be complimenting her for who she is rather than her looks.

The same can be said about buying drinks. Don’t take this advice so far as to think you can’t buy women drinks. Just understand this is a horrible way to start a conversation. Once she’s earned your respect and you’d like to buy a round of drinks for the two of you, go for it.

Don’t Be Needy

Neediness is a sickness that many men have had and will continue to have. We need to put a stop to it for the sake of all women. There is not one woman who is attracted to a needy guy for the fact that he’s needy! This is a huge turn off for women!

Neediness refers to just needing something from a woman all the time. It could be something as simple as just standing by her for the comfort of having a woman near, or having to know where she is all the time and always wanting to hang out. Even the best couples need some time apart.

Let’s say you’re at a club and you meet a woman at the bar. Everything goes well starting out. Good conversation starts flowing, and attraction is mutual. After some heavy flirting you begin touching. She’s giving you a lot of attention and seems into you.

All of a sudden her girl friends come and take her away to the bathroom. Your mind starts obsessing over her. You start to look around the club to see if she’s coming back. Instead of interacting with others at the bar and patiently waiting for her to return you go try to seek her out.

You find her standing outside of the bathrooms talking to a group of people. She sees you and pulls you over to the group. You hover around her while she is talking to her friends. She leaves the group and you start following her around the club like a lost puppy. All your strong male characteristics shrink away and you become needy. She senses your neediness and loses attraction for you.

It’s a sad but true story for many men. They portray all the characteristics of a strong man and gain attraction. Then as soon as the woman shows interest they get needy toward her.

Many times alcohol can also bring neediness out. Good reason not to drink too much and know your limits.

Neediness tends to creep up more when you don’t have many women in your life. The more options you create with women the less needy you will become because you will see abundance. You see no reason to be needy over one woman you met at the bar.

One way to avoid neediness in the bar scene is after you separate from the first woman you’ve met that night, find another woman to talk to right away and just keep the flow going. Not only is this good for you in the fact that you get to meet a lot of woman but all the other previous women will see you talking to all these other women and thus make them even more attracted to you.

When you meet a woman just play it cool like meeting her was no big deal and you care nothing about the outcome of this interaction. Many times when you act in this manner the women will come and seek you out again to continue on the interaction.

Now that we went over somethings NOT to do lets go over somethings to do.

Live In Your Own Reality

In society today there are so many things pulling and tugging at us trying to shape us in some kind of way. Be this way, act like this guy, dress like this group of people, don’t do this or that. It all can be very confusing. So what do you do?

You first need to figure out from the inside out who you are, and what kind of person you want to be? Are you funny? Do you like to make people laugh? Are you the life of the party who always wants the attention? Or are you the somewhat shy mysterious type? From there you can start to build your own reality from which you draw from.

What is “my reality” you ask? Your reality is like a little bubble that surrounds you at all times and everything inside of that bubble you make your reality. You determine what is real or true.

For example in your reality if you think you are a hot guy then you are a hot guy no questions asked. Or if in your own reality you believe no woman can resist you then it’s true no woman can resist you.

What’s amazing about living inside your own reality is that when you believe it so much you will start to draw other people inside your bubble automatically without you even having to do anything. They will believe to be true whatever you believe to be true. If you believe you’re a hot guy you will start acting like a hot guy and you’re going to draw people into your reality and they will see you as a hot guy.

When you believe your sense of reality so much you can quite literally do whatever you want and people will see you as a cool guy who is completely comfortable with himself and doesn’t care what anyone thinks. You will find people will want to get to know you and be around you all the time because very rarely does a cool guy that is that comfortable with himself come around.

A great example of people that live in their own realities is rappers. Rappers have such a strong sense of who they are that they can wear whatever they want. They wear the giant chains, the huge over sized clothes with the diamond grills. Their sense of their own reality is so strong that people accept it and even want to be just like them.

A woman wants a man who’s different from other men. Most men have a very weak sense of reality. In fact most men live in other peoples realities because the social pressure is to great for them to hold their own.

When you have a strong sense of your own reality and are able to draw people into it, you separate yourself apart from most of the men out there, which will allow you to attract more women.

When you can suck a woman directly into your reality it can be very powerful because to the woman it’s like you’re completely different from anyone she’s ever met. To her it’s like you’re showing her and teaching her all these new things in a very short amount of time. When really all you’re doing is just giving her a piece of your reality the way you see things, but to her this is a very attractive quality.

When you live in your own reality and someone doesn’t like you that’s his or her problem not yours. You know exactly who you are and you don’t make any apologies for that. Never sway from who you are deep down inside and people will respect you for that.

Play Hard To Get

Think back to a time when you were a little kid and a relative or friend gave you a new toy. When you would play with this new toy you really didn’t think too much about it. If the new toy were to break you may be sad but it’s not too big of a deal because you didn’t buy it anyway.

Now think to a time when you got allowance and if you wanted a new toy you had to work and save for weeks before you had the money to buy it. When you finally saved enough and had bought your new toy you respected it much more than the other toys you had gotten for free. You knew all the hard work you had to put in to be able to purchase it and therefore placed higher value on the toy you bought yourself.

The basic principal is the harder you have to work to get something the more value you place upon it. This same principle can be applied to attracting women too. The easier you give in to a woman the less value she’ll give you, but the harder you are to get the more value she’ll place on you.

For example if you’re in a bar and a woman starts to flirt with you and right away you’re showing that you’re really into her, and acting like there’s no other woman for you, that’s going to set off some red flags for her because she knows that she didn’t put any real effort forth to attract you. But you still got really into her thus you must be a low value man who doesn’t get women and has to take the first one that comes along cause this doesn’t happen very often. She will lose attraction for you.

On the flip side if she starts to flirt with you and you flirt back (maybe tease her a little), after a while you get up and walk around the bar and talk to other women, you’re going to make her put forth some effort if she really wants to get you. When you do hook up with her she knows the work she had to put in to keep your attention so she then sees you as having higher value because you can be choosey about your women. You aren’t easily won over and you don’t just get on the first woman that comes along.

When you play hard to get with women you are sub-communicating to them that you already have women in your life and you don’t necessary need anymore. The funny part is when other women know that you already have women in your life it just makes them want you even more!

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“How To Tell If A Woman Is Attracted To You”

I used to have no idea how to tell if a woman was attracted to me. Hell, I used to be like most men, I didn’t even understand how to attract women in the first place!

I probably lost dozens of women who were attracted to me because I failed to see the signals these women where giving me, so I failed to take it to the next level.

Most men are clueless to the fact that women give off small subconscious cues when they are attracted. We call these cues indicators of interest. Once you know how to look for these signs you can be certain that you have a woman highly attracted to you!

Here are some examples of Indicators Of Interest:

She asks you a question – If you start a conversation with a woman and she engages you back by asking you questions then this is an indicator of interest.

Her body language opens up to you – During conversation if she crosses her legs toward you or leans in towards you this is another indicator of interest.

She touches her hair or face – If she starts to touch her hair or face while you are talking to her this is a sure sign that she is starting to become attracted to you.

She looks at your mouth – This can be a hard one to pick up on, but when you see a woman looking at your mouth she is not only attracted, she is probably ready to kiss you!

Her pupils dilate – This is a physical reaction she can’t control that will happen when you start to pump up her attraction toward you.

She laughs at your jokes – If she laughs at your jokes this means she sees you as someone of value, therefore she is starting to become attracted to you.

She holds eye contact – You can tell when someone is not interested or does not see you as a person of value because their eyes will wonder when you talk to them. If a woman holds good eye contact without roaming her eyes around it’s a big indicator of interest.

She’s comfortable with touch – If she is comfortable with you lightly touching her or if you hold her hand and she squeezes back this is an indicator of interest.

She leaves her friends to be with you – This is a big indicator that she likes you and you probably have massive attraction.

She hits you in a playful way – This is a very common flirty way for a woman to be playful with a man that she is attracted to.

She tilts her head when speaking – When a woman tilts her head in a dreamy way when listening or speaking this is an indicator of interest.

Why don’t women give off Indicators Of Interest right away when you meet them?

The answer to this is simple. You must learn how to pump up the ATTRACTION first, and once you see that she is giving you indicators of interest you can be CERTAIN that you are ready to take it to the next level.

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The reason pick up lines or openers were even invented was to give a man something cool to say when approaching a woman. They are structured in a way that is suppose to set you apart from all the other guys and begin the attraction process.

Often times after the pick up line or opener is given you would run a scripted routine to gain the attraction with the ultimate goal of getting a girl friend, phone number or even getting laid and you could do this to woman after woman after woman. Some men could get pretty good at this while most men would never really get it. While I admit if you were one of the guys who “got it” you could have great success but this success would come at a great price.

Many men who have relied only on pick up lines and routines to gain attraction often times feel that they can’t “be themselves” anymore. That to get a woman to like them they have to pretend to be someone else and it seems like they’re tricking a woman into liking them. This kind of thinking can really screw up your identity.

Most men who have relied only on pick up lines eventually get so fed up and depressed about not be able to be themselves that they give up on getting better with women and go back to the lonely life they know before just so they can feel like their own selves again.

What a lot of men don’t realize is there is another method that they could learn and that is to learn to become naturally attractive to women. What makes becoming naturally attractive different from relying on lines and routines is that you change yourself from the inside rather than from the outside with lines and routines.

When you become a “natural” attracting women becomes something you are not something you do. With natural game you learn to see yourself in a different light, you start to see that you are truly a man that can attract any woman he sees. Everyone knows what it feels like to have that “on night” when it seems no matter what you say or do everything just seems to be going your way. That’s what it’s like every day when you learn natural game.

There are also some down sides to natural game. For example it can seem like it’s a tougher road to start out on. It’s kind of like learning to ride a bike without training wheels but once you get it down you will start to see improvements much faster and everything you learn will forever be a part of you.

All and all every man who has made the decision to get better with women is already light years ahead of the rest of the pack no matter what method you decides to use. Ultimately the decision is up to you and you should use whatever you feel most comfortable using.

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When we look at factors that women are attracted to in men there’s more to it than just one key factor. There are actually a lot of factors involved. Perhaps this is why men get so confused and don’t understand how to attract women.

Women are programmed to seek out dominant males. Dominant males offer survival value, which is good for the survival of the woman and her offspring. This increases the chances of her genes being passed on to the next generation.

That is why alpha characteristics such as confidence, leadership, humor, charisma, and social skills are bigger factors of attraction than physical appearance.

Women are often attracted to bad boys and assholes. The reason for this is because these types of men portray all of the alpha characteristics that women are attracted to. They might not be the best partners on a logical level but these men are able to trigger emotions of attraction better than provider beta males.

Women don’t usually understand what they are attracted to on a logical level. If you were to ask a woman what she’s attracted to she might say, “I want a nice guy who is funny, with nice abs, and a cute smile.” But then you look at the guys she has dated and they aren’t anywhere near her description. That is because what she logically thinks she’s attracted to is not what she will emotionally respond to.

Men listen to what women say they want and take it too literally. A woman might say she wants a nice guy so guys think that if they are really nice she’ll like them. Then they get frustrated when she doesn’t respond to their nice gestures and think she’s a bitch.

This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want her man to be nice to her it’s just that she is not attracted to nice guy behavior. Typical nice guys are overly nice and do not have all the alpha male characteristics she’s attracted to.

Men are attracted to a woman’s physical appearance so they think that’s all women look for in men. This creates a false belief that if they are not good looking they cannot attract beautiful women.

Physical appearance is a factor and can help you get noticed if you have good looks. But if you are insecure, needy, and boring women will not find you attractive. This is why looks are only a small part of the equation and can even become irrelevant to her attraction to you if you are able to convey alpha characteristics.

Another misconception is that men who are muscular or ripped are more attractive. This is because muscular men convey safety and protection through there appearance. A woman wants her man to make her feel safe and protected but you can easily convey these attributes to her with confidence and leadership regardless of your size.

The truth is any man has a chance to attract any woman; it’s just most men don’t know what it is that attracts women. They concentrate on superficial things and luck to attract women.

When men learn to concentrate on areas that women are attracted to the results are incredible. Men who never thought they could attract hotties become overwhelmed with options of women to choose from.

We should feel lucky to be men. We can change ourselves at any time to become more attractive regardless of what we were born with. Men often become more attractive with age and life experience. We can produce offspring even in old age. Women do not have these options.

You must learn to take these characteristics on in your personality and convey them to women. Soon you’ll understand what you need to work on so you can attract the women you desire!

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For the most part people are put into social situations that we must interact with people everyday. Some of us are good at it and some not so good the ones who are good at interacting socially almost always have great eye contact, but why is eye contact important?

Well just so the record is straight YES, eye contact is important in every interaction you have with someone from the clerk who you bought coffee from this morning to your future boss at your next job interview, but for this article I’m going to focus on why eye contact is important when it comes to attracting women.

First we must understand one of the most attractive traits a women looks for in a man and that is confidence. Most of you know this already but what you may not know is that when you look a woman in the eyes when talking to her you are sending very subtle signs that you are a highly confident man and this drives women crazy. It’s the total opposite when you catch eye contact with a woman and look away very quickly or you can’t keep eye contact during conversation you sending her signs that you a low confident man and thus less attractive to her. When your practicing your eye contact you want to be careful not to stare into her eyes this will probably creep her out think of it more as gazing into her eyes.

Learning to keep good eye contact is just one of the many ways you can learn to gain attraction from beautiful women and drive them crazy. So the next time your at the store or anywhere and you see that beautiful woman look her right in the eyes say hi and see what happens.

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